3 Signs You Struggle With Instant Gratification And How to Become More Content
Do you have a tendency to want something right here, right now, no ifs, no buts and no noes?
Does all hell break loose if you are refused?
Do you feel forever deprived?
Does having to share feel like daylight robbery to you?
You may be suffering from instant gratification.
Well, no one is perfect.If you can identify the problem, it’s easier to find the solution.
Here’s how to tell and here’s how to fix it.
Please, read on if you are humble enough to want to change, surely we must all have some humility in us :)
Hot Tempered
You have a bad temper. Ever observed a toddler having a tantrum? If you’re that toddler in an adult’s body when you’re given ‘no’ for an answer, you may have a problem with instant gratification. In essence, instant gratification has its roots in an inability to be patient and content. It’s a mindset of entitlement, you know, “I am inherently deserving and if I don’t get what I want, you will taste my wrath.”
Keep your temper. A decision made in anger is never sound.
The easiest way out, most of the time, for people with instant gratification issues, is to throw a fit of rage at their targets. Usually, civil people are polite and non-confrontational and don’t like to be challenged, so unfortunately they may give in to raging threats. Throwing fits to get what you want is nothing short of manipulation. It’s toxic and at one point in life, you need to stop. To be fair, it should have stopped at two years of age, but if you haven’t quite grown out of it, there’s a solution! We always have room for improvement :)
Solution: Calm down and don’t take rejection so personally. Demanding things with aggression indicates a lack of maturity and respect for others. It also implies a lack of self-control.Treat others how you want to be treated. Indeed, if someone raged at you for their needs you would be offended. You can always try negotiating gently and diplomatically. Remember, don’t expect so much from people, especially if they’ve tried their best, there’s only so much one human can do for you.
Remember, dragons who roar and shoot fire don’t get anything back but ashes. So be kind! OnlyForTheOne
It’s All About Me… Me Me Me Attitude.
Self-centeredness and inconsideration go hand in hand. If you can’t look beyond yourself and are constantly after satisfying your own desires, usually at the expense of others, you may have a problem with instant gratification.
Come day or night, you have no other purpose but to satisfy yourself and complain if things aren’t to your standard. If being a shoulder to cry on for another human is too much work for you, because you are too busy crying on everyone else’s shoulder, you may have a problem.
Solution: Humble yourself. The world doesn’t revolve around you. Take a moment to consider those who have less than you. You will learn that patience, hard work and contentment lead to happiness. Every human has similar needs, you are one in billions who eats, sleeps, drinks, makes a living, needs a family, wants a good future etc. When you realise you have so much, you’ll learn to exercise gratitude, you’ll learn to realise it’s not all about you. There’s more to life than your wants and needs. How about extending an arm or a shoulder for someone worse off than you?
You’re Stingy.
Small kindnesses are unheard of and unfound in your vocabulary and gestures. It’s illegal to smile. You don’t do pleases and thank yous. You feel robbed if you have to share anything, so much as a pack of crisps. You always feel at a loss and are constantly after acquiring more, happy to take from others but unwilling to give from your own.
Solution: Stop asking so much from others if you are unwilling to give! You will learn a valubale lesson in give and take. You know, sharing is caring. And sometimes, you get what you give… so give more, get more, give good, you’ll get good. By the way, we don’t truly own anything, because ultimately, we all belong to The One.
Indeed actions are according to intentions.
So find it in you to delay gratification, chill out a little, think about others and be more giving.
Only For The One.
